Who We Are
Matt Bishop , LMFT
Licensed Marriage And Family Therapist
"We try so hard, but for all the wrong things.
For so long I chased the dream of a perfect image. In that dream, the admiration of my friends, family, and my greater community was at times all that mattered. Narcissistic behavior was modeled for me by the primary male figure in my life so I learned how to win over the admiration of others through inauthentic means. Yet somehow the satisfaction I searched for eluded me despite accomplishing one goal after another. At first, I thought I just needed more admiration so I did whatever I could to get it and the ends always seemed to justify the means. I had no problem compromising my moral beliefs in order to maintain my image of success. If I needed to lie in order to avoid looking like a failure, then I would. The stress of having to maintain this image led me to act out in many damaging ways. I had an outside appearance of success, but a deeply troubling internal experience, highlighted by a seemingly constant voice of self-criticism and shame. I felt like the world’s biggest fraud. But the admission to that false life was the beginning of my life in reality.
Through personal therapy, a 12-step program, various mentors and trusted friends along the way, I have little by little surrendered the dream of a perfect image and have woken up to the beauty of being me-- flaws and all. I have found that meaningful relationships are not earned by impressing people, in fact, they aren’t earned at all - they are grown from the soil of authenticity.
I love working with people who are longing to experience the freedom that this authenticity provides. I believe the damaging behavior we may engage in or the false image we project to the world just serves as a function to avoid pain and gain love. When you engage in the therapeutic process with me you will experience a space free of judgment and full of grace and understanding, you will experience challenges to set aside your false-self, and you’ll experience the freedom of self-acceptance."
Matt specializes in:
- Faith transitions and spiritual deconstruction
- Sexually compulsive disorders
- Overcoming personal or family secrets
- Depression, apathy, or hopelessness
- Social, vocational, or relational Anxiety
- Helping couples reconnect after broken trust
Licensed Marriage And Family Therapist #107657
B.A. in Psychology from San Diego State University
M.A. in Counseling Psychology from National University
Ed.D. Organizational Leadership with an Emphasis in Behavioral Health from Grand Canyon University (Currently enrolled)